Can you believe it? You’re feeling incredibly sad and hurt, so much so that you feel like you’re falling apart. Nothing seems to make sense, and it feels impossible to understand how the person you were once so close with could leave you like this. Living with a broken heart is one of the most painful things you can go through, and the pain is very real. There’s no switch that can instantly take away these feelings of love, nor is there one that can immediately make you feel better.
But there are things you can do to help you through this incredibly difficult time in your life. The most important thing to recognize is that your pain is very real, and you need to grieve. If you don’t face the hurt and rejection, you won’t be able to heal. It’s important to feel the pain instead of trying to block it out, and go through those awful feelings where you feel like you’re falling apart and don’t even know how to face the day. You can expect to have a lot of tears, wake up at night with feelings of dread, and even feel numb as if this is not happening to you. It’s important to name and honor these feelings, and slowly, each day, they will feel less overwhelming.
Give yourself the time you need to heal. This is a process that won’t be over quickly, especially if your connection and emotions were deep. It’s important to tell yourself that you will survive this and set a vision for yourself of healing and smiling. Try to work towards that vision every day, even in small ways, and this will help you immensely in the future.
After some time, make a list of all your good qualities and things you’re grateful for. This may seem like a lot of effort, but it’s a very helpful step in recognizing your worth and who you are. Keep adding to the list as often as you can, and don’t be shy about it. Don’t forget about your friends and family during this time— they’ll want to help you return to your happy self. Spend time with them, cry with them, laugh with them, and just be in the moment. Crying can help release pent-up sadness, and laughter is also very healing.
Remember that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. This author has been helping others find their true path and helping them find peace, clarity, and their correct path for over 25 years.